The perfect balance doesn't exist or why we shouldn't be so hard on people

I think this is the third time I have attempted starting this post. Since none of the other tries have been successful, I am going to get right to the point.

Balance.  Is this the impossible dream?  Now, before I really get to the meat and potatoes of this post I simply must acknowledge that this problem (as I experience it) is one of privilege or luck or is a blessing depending on your point of view.

So here we go:  I always feel like I can't do everything.  The 'everything' in my life includes the following:

1.  My Job

2.  Maintaining a positive relationship with my husband

3.  Meeting social obligations

4.  Maintaining positive relationships with friends

5.  Exercising

6.  Making healthy homemade food

7.  Being an awesome mom

8.  Having FUN! (now, sometimes this can include any of 1 through 7)

What I have found, especially recently, is that the people in my life are struggling with the same problem.  I know someone who does very well at 1, 2, 3 and 5 but not so well with 4 and 6, and this person really never seems to have fun.  I know others who really struggle with 5 and 6.  I think this is a common problem of people in and around my circle.  It might be a problem with everyone, but since I don't know everyone I just can't say for sure.

This is not rocket science or new.  Or a new type of rocket science.  What is new to me about this struggle to find balance is that even though I cannot find balance, I harshly judge others when they cannot either.  For example, I know a couple who is overweight.  They never EVER exercise, they buy a lot of pre made foods, and they eat out a lot.  But you wanna know something about these people?  They are SUPER happy!!  They have a great marriage (as far as I can tell), they love their kids, they are passionate about their jobs, they travel together and with their children.

The bottom line for me is that the most important thing in life is to be happy.  If eating out or paying someone to make your food allows you to spend more time at your job and with your family, and this makes you happier, DO IT!  If spending less time with family and friends so you can work out makes you happier, DO IT!!  In short, (and I will say duh to this) DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!  And maybe, just maybe, take it easy on others for not doing what makes YOU happy, because maybe what makes them happy is different.

Sha-Bam.  

Why I'm Glad I'm Not Famous

Every time I get out of a vehicle wearing a skirt, I literally thank the stars above I am not famous, because I know if I were (famous that is) then every time I got out of a vehicle someone would snatch a picture of my, well, snatch.  See, I am not very 'lady like' (a phrase I simply abhor), and I cannot be bothered to take an extra 20 minutes getting out of a vehicle just to keep my privates private. So, I look around, and if I am even 40% sure no one is watching I let it all hang out as I get out.

Recently a dear friend directed me to the site feministing.com because of an article on what was then a recent interview between Matt Lauer and Anne Hathaway.  Ms. Hathaway was there to discuss her role in Les Miserables, but Mr. Lauer chose to begin the interview asking about a recent incident where her privates were exposed.  He knew about this (as did most of the world) because someone took photos and then sold them.

Matt Lauer is a misogynistic dickweed.  Maybe I should be embarrassed for not knowing who Matt Lauer is, and maybe I shouldn't make such a snap judgement about someone I don't even remotely know, but when someone says the following to a woman who has been sexually harassed and arguably sexually assaulted, I'm pretty happy to judge them and even happier not to know them.  Mr. Lauer said the following:

"Seen a lot of you lately."
AND
"What's the lesson learned from something like that?"

Ok, just to clarify, someone took photos of Anne's downstairs region WITHOUT HER CONENT and then sold them WITHOUT HER CONSENT and then Mr. Lauer had the audacity to blame her and as feministing said SHAME HER?  Are you kidding me?

Here is how the interview should have gone (in my super angry opinion):

Matt Lauer:  Anne Hathaway, good morning, nice to see you.
Anne Hathaway:  Morning Matt.
ML: Before we get started I just wanted to take a minute and tell you how sorry I am that someone has so horribly invaded your privacy.  I find it completely disgusting but since it is your business and no one else's, I will finish my comments there.  If you have anything you would like to say feel free, otherwise, let's move on to Les Mis.
AH: Thank you for not being a misogynistic dickweed.
THE END.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE WORLD?

twenty thirwhat?

Hi all.  I'm back.  Bigger and better than ever, and I thought I should let you know something.

IT IS 2013.  Seriously.  How the f-word did that happen?  I think it'll be a great year.  Cheers.